Hi reddit, this is my first time posting and I could really use some perspective. I (26F) asked my husband not to bring or cook pork in our home because of my religious beliefs. For me, it’s not just about eating it, it’s also about avoiding cross contamination in the kitchen and feeling comfortable in my own space. Not having to worry and be cautious.
I made it clear that I’m not trying to control what he eats. He is free to eat pork whenever he wants outside the house. My request only applies to our home and shared cooking space.
He got very upset and said this feels like my beliefs are controlling him in his own home. He also said he would never ask me to give up something like that, so it feels unfair to him.
From my perspective, it feels like a small and reasonable boundary for our shared space. I would be willing to make similar accommodations for him if something made him uncomfortable in the home.
I also thought we had previously agreed before the wedding not to have pork in the house, but he says he doesn’t remember that previous conversation now, so now it’s become a bigger conflict than I expected.
Now I’m second-guessing myself, so I wanted outside perspective.
AITA for asking that pork not be kept or cooked in our home? Or is it really a big ask?