u/GlacierJelly

I'm 25 years old now and somehow I still dream of this guy I liked in high school. I have had boyfriends and even a failed marriage. Single now for awhile. But even through all of that he has been a recurring character in my dreams. I did have dreams of him in school so I guess that's when they started. And they have not stopped. Usually the dreams aren't romantic even. It's just us talking or doing whatever dream task together like completing a mission or finding something. Like random. I used to dream of him every night in high school and then college. But after awhile and currently it became like maybe 3/6 dreams.

He was probably the biggest crush I have ever had. I feel like as a grown up I haven't had many crushes. And lol high school I crushed on a lot of guys. But they were minor. This guy was like omg topic of every diary entry ahh. The most we ever did was hold hands. My friend group never actually dated anyone, we were very immature haha. I'm pretty sure he knew I liked him and maybe he liked me. But things just never went that way.

If I saw this dude today, like yay I could reunite with someone from school. I don't think I would still like him like that because it's been ages. He did reach out to me like a few months ago in an Insta dm just to say hi and it was a short convo. Just catching up and he mentioned he was an hour away from me and to reach out if I'm ever in the area. But tbh I think he meant friend wise because we were strictly friends in school. And tbh I can't find an excuse to be in the area ngl.

Honestly, I just want to know why my brain always puts him in my dreams. I haven't seen him for 7 years! How is this even possible?

I'm 25 F living in NC. He's 31 M in Illinois. We met on Reddit November 2024. We started dating in February 2025, last year. So basically we've been officially dating for a year and two months. He has visited me twice, adding up to three weeks. I visited him once for a few days in a city next to his, but not where he actually lives because he was living with his mom at the time taking care of her. I was planning to go in June over my summer break (I am a teacher), but not anymore!

He moved out from his mom's. She had surgery like beginning of last year so he had to take care of her. Then he just signed a 2 year lease at a new place. And I was wanting me to move out of NC to go be with him this coming summer initially after the school year. I wanted to move in with him to make it easier financially on me. Since it is would cost thousands to move everything and he wasn't offering to help. And he never wanted to move here because he wants to be near his mom.

Plus! I would have to retake assessments I already took because in Illinois they don't carry the teaching license over. So I would have to fly there to take a test and pay for the flight and a new license! It would be easier for him to move because he works from home!

But he's like, no, it would be too soon to move in together. So I'm like then when?? And he said 2 years he would maybe move here when his lease ends, after his mom moves, after watching her grandkids graduate in Illinois. But get this, he says if I'm more important than his want to move to Arizona??? Because he lived there before. So I'm like wtf?! Cause I'm willing to pick up my life and move to him and now he says that? Plus 2 years until he considers??? So a total of 3 whole years talking on the phone, seeing each other literally maybe twice a year if that. When I was offering to move this summer or even next summer to give him more time.

This is just honestly the worst relationship when I have dedicated all this time to him just for him to not even try to make a compromise somewhere. I'm just annoyed and now somehow I just have to give up like he did.