I'm homebound currently (tmi personal reason). I can rarely leave the house. That's fine, I'm used to it. My in-laws know this and yet they never come over. In the past I begged my husband to invite them over but he ended up telling me they don't feel welcome (because of me). I've been nothing but nice to them. I guess me ever saying “No.” to what they nag and push on me makes me “unwelcoming”.
My husband's grandma is staying at my in- laws house for the weekend. Instead of any of them including me in their plans and coming over to have dinner here (I love to cook), they are just doing it all without me and it hurts. My husband gave me ample advance (at least a week) that he would be going to his parents house to eat dinner with them today.
I had scheduled a consultation with a shower repair company at 1 and my husband was fine with this. He had a good enough buffer to where it wouldn't interfere with his dinner plans.
Not too long before the appointment my husband is telling me that he may leave early from our consultation because Gma all of a sudden wants to go with him and our nephew (milfh and filfh have custody of him) to the movies.
Gma seems to be a very scatterbrained person and she talks 90 miles a minute. She's actually my favorite of his grandmother's. And of course his family os blowing up his phone calling and texting him during our consultation. "What grandma you don't ready have tickets!? It's less than an hour!" So even before he left, and yes he did leave early, he was already focusing a good bit of his energy on that chaos.
So instead of telling her “no I can't I have a scheduled consultation that I have to do with my wife” or telling her he can but not so soon, he just leaves me with the sales guy early.
He did see that I was upset by this and I said “I don't understand why it has to be right now. You knew we had this planned and that we weren't sure how long it would take.” I also said that blah blah blah if I would have known.
His excuse is that his grandma never does anything planned, it's all at a whim.
To this I said that you are a grown man and probably something along the lines of you can tell her no or schedule it another time. I also said something about priorities.
It just makes me sad at this point. The in-laws not making a tiny sacrifice to accommodate me and include me in their dinne plans EVER hurts, and it hurts that my husband has to rush off and cut our boring plans short to prioritize his family's unplanned plans.
(Me getting ready to post this and realizing I didn't reply in the comments of my last post like I had intended to. Hopefully I get around to it. 😅)