u/Gimalpote

I was reading through the thread posted yesterday, and it was filled with people giving advice, being told their advice is outdated, and then they get defensive and bash Gen Z for not finding the advice helpful.

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating\_advice/s/YN46OVa8ib

If you're giving dating advice to Gen Z, how old are you and what is your specific actionable advice?

Working on yourself is of course always important. But there does get to a point where you've worked on yourself plenty already (but you can always work on improving).

For context, I'm an average looking Asian guy on the shorter side. I take care of my appearance, I'm into fashion and trying new hairstyles.

My social skills are really good, it's easy for me to make friends. I have lots of friends, a few best friends and I'm usually the one planning hang outs or trips with friends. I go out pretty much every weekend spending time with friends, meeting friends of friends, and reconnecting with old friends. I've gone to parties hosted by friends/acquaintances. Been to conventions and talked to strangers. I've gone to a few social events with strangers, but those didn't really turn into anything.

I've been on dating apps, tweaking my pictures, prompts, and replies as much as I can until the point where I don't think there's much improvement left. (I've asked my women friends for their opinions).

I've asked friends to introduce me to women they think would be my type and vice versa. My standards are pretty reasonable, Asian, kind, and plays video games.

I've worked on myself, gone to therapy, practice introspection, exercise, traveled across the world (having fun with strangers and friends), trying new hobbies, groups, etc.

I've basically done everything I can think of. And at this point I genuinely don't know what to do to find my future partner.

I'm looking for advice on either

1. How to meet my future partner

2. How to not let it affect me anymore.

With the second one, I feel like even though I'm living my life as much as I can. I'm not really living it so to speak. Those moments where I can be close to friends, help them through tough times, share happy experiences, go on solo adventures and connect with myself and others. They're great and all, but I know deep down the only thing I want is a partner. I'm already fulfilled in every aspect but this. I'm okay with myself most of the time, but I can't help feel lonely despite numerous friendships and my few best friends. For me, friendships aren't the same feeling as having a partner. I'm genuinely lost.