Me (Male 23) and my now ex girlfriend (Women 21) broke up on March 27 of this year (2026), we have been holding to this no contact for the whole month (today is 29 of April) and I'm quite proud of it.
We were together for 1 year and a half, she was my first gf and before this definitive separation we had like 2 times we broke up but both lasted a week at most, the first one I broke up with her and then I reached out, and the second one was like 2/3 weeks after where she broke up and then came back few days after, it was weird because she was a very insecure person and I was used to let my anxiety lead my life so I would get back with her without a second thought and this second time I was like, dealing with the grief of "hey, she broke up with me because of x and I'm mad about it but she's sleeping right next to me".
So yeah, today I am a very different person, like, I believe Im becoming myself again, I was always a very empathetic person and I honestly still love her, idk if as a gf but mostly as a person, when we broke up she kept repeating "I love you but this is for the best" and I totally agree with her, it was necessary.
As I was saying, now I would love to cross her on the street or something just to have a little chat and to tell her that I'm thankful for everything and that I hope she can heal (or something like that, she was very jealous because her last bf was unfaithful with her and even though I didn't do anything she would always distrust me).
And now, her 22th birthday is in mes than a week, this fourth of May, I have her blocked from Instagram and she did the same but in WhatsApp (in a way that if either one wants to reach back has the capacity to do so). I was thinking to send her a message, not for reconnection but for respect and honest love, I know she has a final exam that exact day so I thought it would be cute to text her at 23:30 that day with a message like "Hi, I wish you're doing well and that you had a happy birthday. I also hope that your midterm went well!" Or something like that, I'm working on it to.
I honestly don't know what to do, I just wish her to be happy and I don't know how to condense all of that in a single short message while also don't keep chatting with her and just leave It there...
I can see how this is weird by just writing it, English isn't my first language so there can be so misused words. Love y'all.