Last year I found out my ex (whom I was in my first ever relationship in with that lasted two years) was actively talking to other women on tinder while being with me. I broke up immediately, though it took me a while to completely get over his betrayal. There were no signs whatsoever, we were fairly happy and I thought we were openly communicating any and all issues with each other well.
Now I've been seeing a new guy for about four months and everything would be as nice and rosy as can be, if there wasn't my crippling anxiety and jealousy. I am restless every time he goes out without me, I don't trust his phone activities (though I would never go as far as searching through it). He knows my backstory and I talk to him about my anxiety and fear of getting hurt again and he is so so understanding and patient. I would never expect him to stop seeing his female friends of course, I know that this is just an irrational fear instilled by my ex partners behavior. My boyfriend never gives me any reason to distrust him, he showers me with affection and makes me feel like I can talk to him about everything.
But sometimes I just feel like I can't take it anymore, especially when he is seeing one of his female friends one on one, but also when he is merely texting with them regularly. I can't help but wonder whether it would be healthier for the both of us if we just broke up. I hate feeling like I am holding him back from actually having a healthy relationship with an emotionally stable woman, especially since this is his first ever relationship.
Tl;dr: Because of my exes betrayal I am jealous and anxious about my boyfriend meeting up with female friends or even just texting them regularly. Would it be better for us to just break up?