How do I lessen the symptoms of my social anxiety?
I know this is not a social anxiety subreddit, sorry about this because I do not have enough comment karma to post on the actual social anxiety sub.
Im a teenager, ive never been diagnosed with social anxiety (although I have previously been in the process of 'testing' for it, until I started crying very badly after a question and the nurse sent me home, then it was never followed up), but I have very intense social anxiety symptoms.
For example, when I am out, I feel as if every move I make is being judged by others around me, even though I know I am only creating this problem in my head and that nobody but me actually cares about what im doing. In my college classes, I'll often want to ask a question or simply ask to go to the toilet, but I feel this immense amount of dread or disdain at the thought, and my throat feels like it closes up and I never end up asking.
Although, it differs depending on the teacher or the people in the class. The idea of putting my hand up and asking something is absolutely horrible. But, if the teacher comes over to me just to check and help me, I'll be able to just quickly ask them, because there is little attention on me then.
Also, I have very little friends. I am only friends with my college friends because they approached me first. I have a close friend from secondary school but I just talk to her online.
My friends at college are very nice, but still I cannot bring myself to be truly outwards with them. If I want to say something to them, in my head its just a string of 'what if they think its strange', 'what if they dont laugh', etc. Or worse, my mind is entirely blank, and I've nothing to say at all, which is more often than not. I've had a few very close friends over the years who I was fully myself with, but every time I ended up pushing them away over something insubstantial, often being cruel in the process. I always look back and mourn these friendships, although I think thats an entirely different issue.
I blush so easily when someone makes a comment about me, and I often don't know how to reply. I cry so easily, its embarrassing, and I already fear attention being drawn to me, so when I start blubbering over nothing I just feel even worse. I genuinely cry over EVERYTHING. every minor inconvenience, im sobbing.
I loathe making eye contact with others. Its so uncomfortable, but I feel as if i have to, so i force myself to. I CANNOT talk to boys at all, and its dreadfully embarrassing. My legs start shaking whenever there is even a little bit of attention on me, and Im constantly cracking my knuckles, bouncing my leg, twisting my earrings/sleeves, etc.
My mind often goes blank when people Im unfamiliar with talk to me (most everyone), and my heart races so fast in these situations, to an uncomfortable amount where my chest might hurt. I avoid almost all situations where attention will be drawn to me.
But I'm absolutely fine with my family. I am so exuberant and frankly, annoying, with them. I could talk for hours and hours with my siblings, just doesn't make sense to me. I've always been like this since I was a child too. I bite my nails, but only at home, which I think is just me giving myself some oral stimulation.
Thanks for any help anyone can provide, x