AIO for wanting to end the relationship after my bf helped himself to my medication?
Throwaway because my bf knows my main. I (36F) and my boyfriend (37M) have been together for 6 years and known each other for 8. We live together, not kids together but I have a son (8) from a previous relationship and he has a very close relationship with my bf.
My bf is a recovering meth addict, he was in rehab when we met and he’s been clean since. He attends Narcotics Anonymous meetings regularly and has completed the 12 steps multiple times. I’ve never taken hard drugs and never dated anyone who was involved in hard drugs, so whatever I learned about addiction and recovery, I learned from him.
We’re both diagnosed with ADHD and take Ritalin. We’d sometimes “borrow” each other’s Ritalin if we misplace ours (it’s usually found in some forgotten place the next day) but from last year I began noticing him helping himself to my Ritalin. He’d burn through his prescribed amount (already near the maximum dosage) then top up with mine. I’d often open my bottle and find at least a week’s worth of pills missing. He’d sometimes give me a sheepish “sorry” when I confronted him, and there had been times he’d get defensive and accuse me of not keeping the bottle out of his sight. He’s tried at least twice last year to “reset” himself by going off Ritalin for a month.
My son was diagnosed with ADHD recently and my bf told me he’d vowed to quit helping himself to my meds because it goes against his morals to help himself to a child’s medication. I asked him how come it didn’t bother him when he helped himself to mine and he said he didn’t know; it just didn’t cross his mind.
This month I’ve been struggling with my ADHD symptoms in particular and I ended up being 12 days short, as soon as I got a new month’s supply I began tracking and counting the pills closely. Today he told me he’s helped himself to “2”, and when I counted the bottle I had TWELVE missing! He’s been double-dosing himself daily on my medication because he’s burned through his month’s supply. This was on the back of me saying I’d leave him if I ever find himself helping himself to my meds again, and I have lost all faith in him about not helping himself to my son’s meds.
I’m furious, I want to leave him, but part of my mind also wonders if I’m overreacting— after all, he’s not smoking meth. Am I overreacting?