i'm not a dad but just want your opinions on this ?
i really don't like my moms bf. he can be normal but if i or my siblings get in trouble sometimes he'll be a bit aggressive to me and my 2 brothers, or when he's mad. i recently got in trouble for something i did at school which my teacher sent an email to my mom. my moms bf was already at our house too, which my mom "talked" to me about the email, WHICH my moms bf heard and obviously got himself involved. also just to say what my teacher said in her email about what i did was not true and that teacher was not there when it happened and only got info from a different teacher. my school grades are already low as well and school is just hard for me at the moment. my mental health has also just been making things worse for me. (btw i'm only 15) anyways as punishment for what happened at school my moms bf made me shovel all the snow in our front yard. it wasn't as bad doing it but when i was almost done with shovelling, he came outside and told me to shovel all the snow back to the other side. i started crying when i had to re-do it but luckily he didn't actually make me. it was so hard to not cry in front of him while talking but his tone made me cry a bit more. i just hate how he always makes me do way more when i'm in trouble. he once made me write the same sentences on many paper because of something else i did a year ago, i wasn't allowed to get up until i was finished, sometimes i had to restart writing or write more. and yeah, most of the stuff he's done to me was when i got myself into trouble but i just think that maybe it's a bit too harsh. then around the same time when i was writing those pages, (i don't exactly remember what else i did but i got into trouble again for something else) while i was writing, he grabbed the collar of my shirt and pinned me to the wall aggressively then kept yelling and spitting at me. it made me so uncomfortable and kinda traumatized me, he also, a few days later threw out everything on my desk in my room. he's already done once and had threatened to do it again for a 3rd time. and i honestly don't think any of this is teaching me a lesson and i think he's maybe just trying to hurt me??? idk, he also has his own daughters and i assume he's done this to them before. ALSO i guess this might be off topic but i found out months ago my moms bf had been cheating and texting another women! i won't go into so much detail but i haven't told my mom yet and i am worried to. only because my moms bf does so much for our family: like paying for groceries, and giving my mom money, etc. he is also the father of my youngest brother and it would be sad if i told the truth. my baby brother loves his dad and my mom loves and trusts him too. i just hope maybe i could tell her one day and maybe my moms bf change