u/FuzzyArgument1338

I (F23) want to know if anyone else has had as awful as an experience growing up with brothers as I have. My mom was what you'd call a 'boy mom' and never disciplined my brothers. I genuinely love my brothers and always have. Looked up to them like crazy growing up but as I get older and see how tarnished my self esteem is, it all comes back to my childhood and upbringing. I still remember a time when I was 16, finally started making my own money and bought myself some Starbucks coffee creamer. I wrote my name on it, placed it in the fridge and by the next day it was almost halfway gone. My older brother had been using it without my permission. As a person whose emotions were constantly suppressed or made fun of, I reacted with anger which is something I still struggle with today. I told on him and my mom did nothing. She didn't even tell him not to do it again. All she did was handle my anger towards the situation and told me shed buy me another. They were never corrected and this is just one of many scenarios that happened to me, leading to my brothers having and showing zero respect towards me. I don't even think they see me as a person and it's caused so much frustration, anger and pain. I also remember all of my volleyball games, dance recitals, they were never there to support and my parents just never made them. If my dad for some reason did force them to come I would feel like. burden or some embarrassment that they had to come watch me. My eyes have started to open to how this has changed me as a person and bleeds into my everyday life.