I’m looking for some outside perspective because I’m in my head right now.
I’ve been seeing this girl for about five dates. Things have been going well overall — good chemistry, easy conversation, we’ve kissed/held hands, and we had another date already planned for Thursday.
Last night we went out, ended up going back to her place, and had sex for the first time. Afterward, I asked a little about her past relationship history and I told her I’m dating intentionally and ultimately looking for something serious/long-term. I wasn’t asking her to define anything right then, but I’m worried the timing may have made the moment feel heavier than I meant it to.
Later, she kind of hinted that it was time for me to head out, but she was still warm — we kissed goodbye and she offered to walk me down to the front door of her building. I texted her when I got home saying I got home safe and had a good time, and she just liked the message instead of replying. That’s what’s messing with me because she usually replies with an actual message.
I’m trying to figure out if I should just wait until our Thursday date and act normal, or if I should check in beforehand and ask how she felt about last night. Part of me wants clarity, but I also don’t want to make things heavier or come across needy.
What’s the best move here? Should I leave it alone and let the next date show me where things stand, or is it better to address it now?
Edit: And prior to making love, we’ve been texting each other almost everyday. And it’s been more than 24 hours and she hasn’t texted me.