u/Future_Guidance_9908

I recently ended a long term relationship and my expwbpd has been sending me really intense messages since the breakup. I honestly can’t tell how much is emotional pain vs something I should seriously worry about. These messages were from yesterday.

I encouraged her to get professional help but I’m feeling overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted at this point. I thought about doing a wellness check but I’m hesitant because of possible ICErelated consequences.

How do you know when to take this seriously vs when continued contact is just feeding the cycle? Are there safe ways to request a wellness check without getting the police involved? And honestly, if something happened to her, how would I keep on living with that? Im worried she’s right. Guilt would eat me alive

My expwBPD is wearing me down. I have her blocked everywhere but she keeps finding ways to reach me … new numbers, new email addresses, messages through apps I forgot to block. Every time she gets through she tells me I ruined her life and threatens to take her life because I won't see her anymore.

I've sent a clear message telling her any further contact is harassment. She responded with more hostility.

I'm scared that she'll actually follow through and leave a note blaming me. I know logically I'm not responsible for her choices but I can't shake the fear.

Has anyone been through something like this?

How did you protect yourself emotionally while also not knowing if the person is actually in danger?

Ex sending intense messages after breakup and I don’t know how seriously to take it