AIO: my boyfriend makes subtle suggestions about my appearance
In the past month or so, my boyfriend (21M) has made some subtle comments about my (19F) appearance.
For context, my ethnicity has allowed me to have thick-ish hair with my eyebrows, lashes, but also the rest of my body a bit. Not excessively, but enough to where it’s more than average. My hair is pin straight and not insanely thick too. I have also been on the thinner side all my life, and when I was younger I think I had a lot of hair on my body because of a lack of warmth lol.
He made this comment once that he wishes that I dressed up for him more. Because I’m in college, when I have gone to parties and such with my friends I try to match the vibe (but modestly still bc I just value that in a relationship) and put some basic going-out makeup on (I don’t typically put makeup on most days in general). He said he used to feel a certain way bc I would dress up going out but not as much when I am just hanging out with him or seeing him (not going on dates or anything). He told me he likes it a lot when I wear shorts/skirts, or tighter clothing sometimes. I tend to wear sweats often.
He also would hint at me getting hair removal procedures done before saying like “If you ever want to get like waxed or laxer removal I can get it for you.” Today he said something about shaving my arms for special occasions? I don’t really think people pay much attention to hair on arms. He also was telling me how “most men like when girls are hairless,” or something like that
I’ve always been a little plain in my makeup and also clothing choices, largely because I was a tomboy as a small child, and then also went to a private school where I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup or wear my own clothes. My wardrobe was just school uniform, workout clothes, and my mom’s hand-me-downs before I went to college because I played a lot of sports.
I’m a bit insecure about my wardrobe and also the fact I don’t really know how to do makeup well so I keep it light with mascara and concealer with maybe some lip product. I feel like my boyfriend is being a bit weird with the comments on how I should appear, and I feel weird about the hair thing too… Is he not happy with how I look? Is he embarrassed of how I look or something?
I’ve always taken pride in my bare face and simplicity in my style because I also don’t like showing my body too much because I don’t like that type of attention. Am I overreacting and thinking he’s overstepping or being weird about commenting on my appearance?