I don’t know what to do anymore. I [20F] have been with my partner for over four years. Over the past year, we have been having a lot of disagreements especially around the time of my period. I sometimes snap at him, and I am working on being bette, but without fail every time he responds with “i can’t handle you,” or “you’re crazy,” or “you’re too emotional to see.”
Last night we got in a huge disagreement and I am feeling like this is my last straw. I was about to switch birth controls to hope my moodiness synp would be better, but I truly think he just will never give me extra patience when I need it. Especially when making a switch that may cause worse moods.
I hope this isn’t TMI, but last night I was taking out my mantra cup in his bathroom, and I said “oh no” as some spilled on my shorts and the floor. He rushed in and said “what” and I told him what happened and the first thing he responded with was “is my rug okay!!” and I asked him in an alarmed voice to please give me privacy as O was trying to clean up everythin. He wouldnt leave and kept trying to check his rug and I raised my voice and asked for privacy again. Nothing was on the rug, and i just tried to clean up everything and my shorts because I was embarrassed. when I tried to clean my shorts early in his sink to get the blood off it started overflowing as he has negle getting draino for month.
I have continuously told him how frustrating it is when his space does not stay usable and I was getting more embarrassed as the results of the stained pants were evident in the sink. I expressed my frustration out loud about how stressful this situation and the sink was for me and he responded with “just wash it in the shower.”
Overwhelmed and frustrated with his lack of care, i threw the shorts down near his feet and said, “you clean them in the shower then.” I understand this was not appropriate, but I could not express my frustration. This he followed up with, ”I am not the one who spilled it.”
This comment pushed me over the edge and it turned into an escalated emotional back and forth that has not been resolve. He still feels as tho he did nothing wrong from the start being concerned only about his rug, and he thinks the videos i send him about other men repaondong with care and kindness in these situations are fake. I love him and in many ways he’s a great guy but he never seems to understand me.