u/FurbyFucker3000

TLDR- Partner has become a bit deranged and sexually demanding, but only after he hurt me and I quit trying.

Sorry for bad typing, emotionally distressed.

My partner and I have been together for nearly 11 years, we had a child 3 years ago. Our entire relationship, I've sorta been the "boss". Yeah, he works- but I've made most decisions, done nearly everything outside of his job.

Since the pregnancy, things have fallen hard, rapidly. He said he emotionally bailed on me because he realized his days of binging video games and collecting figures were coming to a close... That he had severe depression because parenthood was harder than he expected. He didn't expect to "lose" so much time and money on a child.

I tried so hard to fix us, and got us into couple's therapy last summer... But when he hurt me (can't say how here) the therapist terminated services for my safety. After what happened I completely lost my libido and quit trying to hold intimacy, originally I was the only one putting in effort... He went from neglecting me to now making passive aggressive comments/insults about how I'm not providing what he needs.

Well... I'm to get major surgery next month, he's been less than supportive. He told me today he knows I'm going to leave him... That when I broke up with him in October, and took him back soon after- I only let him come home because I'm in too much pain to survive on my own. Once I'm in less pain and feeling better, I'm going to find someone attractive, someone that I'll actually love.

I'm already looking at having to go hours away for surgery by myself with just aide transportation. I drive and do all transportation. He doesn't have a license and his family refuses to help, they've been fighting a lot lately and they don't want me to get better, either. I have no family.

But since October, when he came back home... I've noticed that beyond the sexual demands, he's also been wearing my deodorant, using my body wash, wearing my perfume, demanding I share my clothes- though they're much too small. He's said PLENTY of unhinged things, like calling me Mommy and his momma bear, that he's my baby bear.

Just so much. I have a therapist and she's literally told me he terrifies her. I, unfortunately don't see her until the 27th as I'm so busy with pre-op appointments...

I don't know. I've tried to talk about it on other apps and it's always "call crisis!"

The crisis line is worthless.

I guess, like... What do? I don't even know...

Edit- Oh, yeah... He's also been trying to pressure me into having another baby. After being an absent father for our first.