u/Funny-Worldliness-34

I just moved to a new city and I have two roommates. One is a straight woman, the other is an asexual biromantic woman, and I am a lesbian. Not that long ago, we went out to a bar together to have some fun. It started out really nice. We bonded with some other girls in line waiting to get in outside. Once we got in, we danced and talked to each other some more. Then, the men flocked to us. It turned into a night where the straight roommate was flirting with a guy most of the time and then the other roommate was dancing and talking to another guy the other part of the night. Guys tried to talk to me too, but I just found them all to be gross, annoying, and awkward. It’s almost like I’m a lesbian or something. Anyway, I just was not having a good time. I felt alone with no one to dance with or talk to. I really thought my asexual biromantic roommate might at least recognize that I wasn’t having a great time because surely she’s felt similar in other situations, but she never really even looked at me after she started talking to a guy. After we left, they were debriefing all the crazy things the men had said to them that night. Then they tried to give me a compliment by mentioning how many guys tried to talk to me and seemed into me. It might have been an ego boost for them, but how in the world would it have made me, a LESBIAN, feel good to be hit on by men I’m not at all interested in? I don’t understand why they would think that? A few months later, we went out again to a different bar. I thought it might be different this time because there tend to be more queer people at this other bar, but it ended up being the exact same situation all over again where I was left dancing on my own while they were off with men. I’m working on finding more queer community in this new city and I know that’s what I need to do. That being said, being what feels like the only queer person in a straight bar is the most isolating experience ever.