I [18F] can’t tell if the honeymoon phase with my [18M) boyfriend or if we won’t work long term
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. At the start of the relationship, we had a few issues with him lying about certain things, and although we worked through them, I think some of that hurt still affects me.
Lately, our relationship has started to feel like it’s lost its spark. We spend almost every day together, and while I love being with him, he’s become very clingy and gets upset when I spend time with my friends because he feels like it takes attention away from him. At the same time, I’ve always encouraged him to go out and spend time with his own friends.
Right now I feel really conflicted. I’m a very independent person, and part of me just wants space and time alone, but I also genuinely love him and don’t want to lose the relationship. We’re also just very different people and have nothing in common other than the gym, I’m very tough and free spirited and he’s the opposite.
I also still feel some resentment over things that happened earlier in the relationship, like him going to strip clubs behind my back and using coke. He has genuinely changed since then, which makes me feel guilty for still being affected by it, but I can’t seem to fully let it go.
So are my feelings trying to tell me something or is it worth staying with him