Me and 2 other friends started renting a house 2 years ago. He is the childhood best friend of the other guy that lives in the house who I have become super close with the last few years. It's been such a challenging task trying to be his friend. It started out good because I made a point to not ever get upset with him and to be nice to him even if he was being rude to one of us or just being a nauseant. I'm not sure if he has issues or not but these are some of the things he's done the last 2 years. I'm not trying to shame him by any means; I'm just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience with someone they know, and if there are similar things people have found out about this type of person.
- He drinks daily and is in his mid-20's now.
- Never exercises and orders door dash everyday.
- We've caught his girlfriend cheating on him multiple times and he is still with her.
- They will fight out loud and the whole house can hear them.
- Hardly ever has contributed to the house in terms of cleaning, maintenance, trash, etc. But then he will always tell us he contributes to the house all the time.
- Leaves used dishes and trash all over his desk in the office and makes the room smell terrible.
- Told me and my roommates he is the smartest person in the house.
- Told me he chooses to hang out with us instead of his other friends. We've only seen him hang out with other friends one time and he said he doesn't even like the guy.
- Tells his childhood best friend that he is retarded and tells him to shut up sometimes.
- Moved his girlfriend into the house we are renting the first day of move-in and told no-one that was happening. He/she never offered for her to pay rent or utilities until we asked a few months later.
- Then later got upset with his best friend that his girlfriend had been over for 3 days straight.
- Told me he has sensed the air has been tense between us and told me that he needs to know right now if I want to be his friend because I had been talking to him less.
- I told him that's not how friendships work.
Since moving in with him, I always tried to be friends with him and to see the good in him. But after a while, I've realized I don't think I should have been doing this. I probably should have taken him for who he is.
Hopefully I haven't gone too far the other way because it's hard to not think negatively of him now. Has anyone ever experienced something like this? I've been wondering if he has been jaded from his experiences or if he is just a negative person. Really sad, thanks everyone.