u/Fun_Monk_5989

I am 24 F, mba graduate. I am financially independent but not in a steady place in career. I am looking for a guy who is willing to commit (24-28) and is not into AM scene yet. I am a gujju girl and I will have brownie points if you are a gujju guy.

Little about me:
I have dated people since high school. I have had 3 serious relationships so far. I also have been into casuals, this seems to be deal breaker so if it is keep scrolling. I do smoke, drink and smokeup occasionally. I am raised by amazing parents who encouraged me to step out of comfort zone and so I hold strong opinions on things. It would be perfect if your family is like mine, not very judgemental or traditional

I am into fitness and I expect guy to be into it too. I do have a thing for tall guys. Accountability is the key word, I look for ambitious guy who is not afraid of responsibility and not someone who wants to chill out in life. I look forward to being with someone who has had past relationships because it would be easy to be on same page with them then someone who hasnt (just a personal preference no judgements)

In terms of qualities I value honesty, kindness and open communication.

I have moved a lot in last two years so I am not sure which city I will be in or where I want to settle eventually, can talk about it.

Ps: text only if you want a relationship and are looking to marry in next 2-3 yrs. Also there is no point of sending Hi and random hellos. Please share atleast basics about yourself.

I finished my mba and got placed in MNC and i left that job in 5 months, (biggest mistake ever). I started working in startup in sales but kept getting anxious and one day I told them (again screwed up) They used it against me and pushed me out. I have found a new job but my confidence is all time low. I have been topper and a sincere hardworking person all my life and now I dont have confidence that I can survive a year jn a job. Anxiety is still there but I cant stop my life and career because of it and Ik whatever people say it is shitty on career. How do you bounce back when your belief in yourself is all time low?

So I(24F) met this guy two months ago and he we started hooking up at his place very soon. I use to go over post office and he seemed like the perfect guy. He visited different city for 10 days and as normal hookup, i expected it to end and he kept it going. He kept asking about my whereabouts, took my help picking his outfits and we had basic conversations since he was busy there.

He came back and again everything was on, but we never went on actual date. I raised it to him and he said if you have issue, we will never meet to hookup i want to date you. It again became normal and gradually asked if we can be serious he said I cant be its a blocker from my end. Obviously, i tried to know reason he gave me some family sob story which i bought because I trust the person. I backed off but when i spoke to close friend he said, its bullshit story guys make it up when they want to end it and dont have balls.

I didnt know any of his friends or he never posts of social much so to verify I used my bestfrind’s photos(with her consent) and make fake profile, made exact filters to match with him and ohh boy, he repeated every same thing he told me. He didnt even mention my chapter, he straight up lied about timelines and seemed very eager to get in bed with the fake profile.

I dont know how to handle this, i wana get back at him badly for what he did because he pretended to be completely innocent charming guy. I dont wana confront because obviously what I pulled off to get his real side out makes me sound crazy and is crazy. I want to let him know ik about what he did some how or do something for revenge