Hi everyone! I (26F) and my boyfriend (29M) are both bisexual and have been together for about 3 years. Lately we’ve been talking more seriously about our future and what we’d want a long-term relationship or marriage to look like.
So far, we’ve been completely monogamous. That said, we’ve also been having open conversations about making sure we both feel fulfilled in terms of intimacy and our identities—especially since we’re in a heterosexual-presenting relationship.
For a bit of context: my boyfriend has mostly dated men before me, so being in a relationship with a woman was an adjustment for him at first, and the idea of a long-term future with a woman wasn’t always his default. On my side, I haven’t had much experience dating women, so this dynamic feels more “standard” to me—but he’s always been really supportive of me exploring and feeling comfortable in my sexuality.
We’ve talked about possibly trying things like threesomes or a more open structure, but we’re still figuring out what feels right. I know there’s a huge range—from fully monogamous to fully open and everything in between—so I’d really love to hear other perspectives.
If you and/or your partner are bi, what kind of dynamic have you chosen for your relationship long-term?