u/Fun_Cow5538 — reddlx

she moves out today but i want to know if my feelings are valid lol:

my roommate and i (both 22F) have been sharing a two bedroom apartment for about a year now and we have had basically no issues. she stays to her side and i stay to my side, we both typically wait for the other to go back in their room before going out to do our own chores and that has worked perfectly for me. we are both shy people and we don't really talk. i am usually a homebody but i make an effort to leave the apartment pretty frequently during the week for classes, club meetings, friend hangouts etc so she doesn't feel like i'm always home. she is more of a homebody and honestly rarely leaves for more than like 45 minutes unless she has class (which im convinced she has been skipping). she also smokes but has kept it to her room.

this was genuinely fine up until super recently when she discovered bugs in her room and decided to use some kind of powder repellent. when the apartment pest control came, they told her that the repellent was used completely incorrectly. im not sure if it successfully got rid of the bugs or not but it made a huge mess in her room and because of either the repellent or the bugs, she decided to start staying in the living room. our living room, kitchen and laundry are all in the same area btw. i really wouldnt mind this too much if not for 3 things:

- she almost never leaves the living room- i could count on one hand how many times she left the apartment over the course of a week, and each of those instances was for an hour max, just spends all day on the couch

- she smokes in the living room

- the living room has basically been converted into her bedroom, clothes, pillows, blankets, stuffed animals, food everywhere, spanning both of our couches- she even moved the pillow and blanket i had been keeping on one of the couches onto the dirty floor

also, i know this is probably going to seem silly, but i really appreciated that i didnt have to cross paths with her too much before and now that she is constantly on the couch, it has disrupted my own sense of comfort. i hardly leave my room now and ive been putting off important things like chores or even feeding myself and drinking water just to avoid her.

please let me know what you guys think of this, my girlfriend has insisted that it's not that big of a deal but it is genuinely making it difficult to get things done lol and i hate seeing our living room messy