Would this erode your relationship? Lesbian ‘44f’ ‘35f’ .. 2 year relationship.
My partner was in the closet her whole life until about a year ago. She told her parents and ‘closest‘ sister. The parent went on with their biblical stuff, it’s unnatural etc and limited contact with her. The sister seemed supportive but said ‘i don’t think my kids (10 and 12 will be comfortable with it so I won’t tell them).. my partner was like yes I respect that.. I was like.. only reason they wouldn’t be comfortable with it is because the sister has literally taught these kids to feel that way. Therefore, she’s not actually supportive. My partner didn’t agree. Lo and behold, the sister vanished off the side of the earth and now doesn’t talk to my partner anymore. But.. apparently she’s not a bigot.
My partner constantly defends the family for these actions and it is driving me wild. I think they are bigoted and homophobic and my partner says ‘you just don’t understand, they’re just doing what their religion tells them they should do’. Apparently her sister just cutting contact after my partner coming out isn’t rooted in homophobia at all and I just have no idea what I’m on about.
The whole entire relationship I’ve never been asked to meet my partners family. Theyve all treated her like shit for coming out and finally bring in a happy relationship. But I fucking hate these people for what they’ve done to my partner but my partner just defends their actions. Is she just in denial or something. I also blocked them all on social media because if they are so against our relationship I don’t believe they have the right to see any of our pictures/ life together. The one sibling I forgot to block on my Instagram account the other day must have been stalking me because I saw a notification to say they liked a photo and then all of a sudden the notification disappeared.
Theres a lot more to the story. I’m sure a lot of you know the hurt it brings being in a relationship with someone who has been in the closet. I just find myself so angry that my partner constantly defends these people for their vile behaviour and I feel like it’s eroding my respect for her and our relationship. How would this make you feel?