advicee how to meet new ppl
soo it's been a few months since I started my first semester in bahria in business. almost 4 months. and honestly after covid I kinda stopped making friends or interacting w new ppl or keeping friendships cuz I stopped always reaching out to ppl first and realized nobody really gaf and so I built this habit of never interacting first or doing too much for others without their first move. did that in most of the college time but also I rarely went to college. and now in uni I hoped that making new friends or meeting new ppl would be easier but it's still the same. in my section there are only few girls like 12 I think. and from the first day two groups were alr established. I did make a friend but oh well it's been mostly miserable. when it was just me and her we didn't really talk that much but we made a friend from the same class and after a few days it was very obvious I was thirdwheeling them at that point cuz they both only talked w eachother. I did talk w my friend but it's mostly just on chat about uni work, but when we're in uni it's just them talking. this used to happen w me in college too and I absolutely hated that cuz I'd rather sit alone than thirdwheel. the other girl doesn't even talk w me and honestly i couldn't care less, it's just I didnt get why my "friend" finds it easier to talk to her than me like i was never rude to her but maybe boring. I'm an introvert and I don't immediately get comfortable w someone in the first meeting to start yapping. I do try to make efforts to talk w them but the conversation never lasts long, and they don't even tell me stuff (prayingg they don't come across this post)
it's only the first semester so idk if I should be worrying about this alot or not, I just wanna have fun in uni too like others and don't wanna waste it on just taking classes and immediately going back home.
at times I have stayed after classes to hang out w them and it is a lil better than going home immediately but I really can't handle being ignored or thirdhwheeling all the time.
maybe I'm not talkative and just too closed that others don't interact w me that much but I DK how to change that. approaching someone new is very scary for me, and I often don't get the respond I expect so I just stop trying to not further embarrass myself.
also not gonna victimize myself and gonna come clean that yes like I said after covid I did notice always being the one to give first. and when I stopped doing that I saw ppl didn't really care about me that much. and I started thinking to not give more than what was required cuz I also hated being clingy, I didn't wanna bother someone. and maybe that's why I have almost no friends I did make a friend in college and she's like my bff till now. she's super sweet and honestly I'm so lucky to have her.
anyways sorryy this got v lengthy & whyy did I start ranting sm wth.
plss some advice on how to seem friendly or approachable cuz i really dont understand how ppl charm others in just first meet, I really envy them.