Church's role in post separation abuse
Curious about what you would expect a church to do in this situation - looking to get an idea of what is reasonable and biblical to help guide a response:
Husband left wife of 20 years to pursue relationships with other women. Elements of coercive control, he had never worked and she provided for the family as well as all the homemaking. Wife was willing to forgive and reconcile but he was unrepentant. Still called himself a Christian and attended the church for a few months at a different time to the wife. She tollerated it as she hoped he would be convited and repent. Avoided conversations with the pastors. Eventually he left the church, and notified wife that he was doing so.
6 Months later, he returned to the church, again at a different service time. He has not repented, post separation abuse has continued. Wife feels unsafe to attend the church knowing that he has reconnected socially with many shared aquaintances and feels like he is using them to monitor her and is trying to turn people against her. He says she has been taking advantage of him financially since he left. His choice to continue to pursue other women and the subsequent abuse has not been publically spoken of - only explanation generally given was that he chose to leave he marriage, not why. He states that he believes God would not judge him for leaving her.
Does the church have a responsibility to the wife here? Should he be asked to leave? Is it wiser for her to leave and start somewhere new?