Should Couple Get Input on Rehearsal Dinner??
I love my FMIL but we’ve had a few…power struggles over my upcoming wedding. for background, my (bride’s) family is paying for all of the wedding day and the groom’s family is paying for rehearsal dinner and welcome party.
I feel like my FMIL has really overstepped on decisions that are not hers to make (contacting a priest for the ceremony, not respecting our wedding guest list). That said, my fiancé and I agreed it’s best to let her run with the rehearsal dinner since she clearly wants something to own and can’t otherwise be involved in wedding planning without giving unsolicited opinions.
I’ve tried to casually suggest some things we’d like (e.g., “I have a discount for these cute invites” or “XX theme is such a cute idea”) but haven’t been asked my opinion on ANYTHING. I also haven’t been told anything — this rehearsal dinner is basically a black box aside from venue and time.
Am I crazy for thinking my fiancé and I would at least be consulted on some decisions for this event? My parents are paying for/hosting the wedding but my fiancé and I have made every decision. Recently my FSIL said my FMIL was picking out appetizers for the dinner — I asked if she’s asked the groom what he wanted and FSIL said “why would she ask him? It‘s HER event.”
I’m so grateful this is hosted for us but am I crazy to think it’s OUR wedding weekend not HER event??