In a few weeks will be my godson's graduation ceremony . It's out of state about a 8-hour drive one way. Originally I was going to drive up and stay at a motel. My godson's father who lives close by is demanding that I drive up with him. He is a very successful contractor who does not have a cell phone. He refuses to pay for one. He basically wants me to be his personal GPS. Now he does have a GPS in his truck. But he's insisting that he's going to get lost and when he gets lost it's going to be all my fault because I am not with him. He also has not gone on a road trip by himself in about 30 years. He made a reservation at the same Motel that I'm staying at just so he could use that to further guilt trip and intimidate me into riding up and back with him.
One of the main reasons I do not want to be stuck in a vehicle with him for any length of time is he talks very loud like your ears will be ringing. And all he talks about is his very strong political opinions which are opposite of mine. I refuse to engage in any kind of political discussion with him but it doesn't stop him from bullying me with his political opinions . And even if you request that he not talk about politics he will use that as a reason to talk more about it.
Another reason why I don't want to ride with him is he loves to brag about how much money he makes. I've been struggling over the past few years because I have been acting as a caregiver to several family members. And I'm currently recovering from a devastating leg injury. And I'm finally able to start working full time again so finances are very tight. And I don't really want to spend 7+ hours listening to him brag about how much money he's making and how many mistakes I'm making with my life. How im a loser. And about why I am so wrong and I'm an idiot to have the political opinions that I do have.
He's also one of these people that you don't hear from him unless he needs something. He does nothing for anyone unless he gets something out of it and that includes his own children.
To further complicate matters His ex-wife reached out to me And offered Have me ride up With her husband And stay at Their house close by to the graduation ceremony. This would save me hundreds and hundreds of dollars that I could instead give to my godson.
The godson's father does not know about the offer from his ex. And when he finds out about it he is going to blow up. The saddest part is I was looking so forward to this so happy to be involved and be a part of it and now it looks like I'm not even going to be able to go up there . Because I do not want this to be about my godson's father I want this to be about my godson. And if he doesn't get his way he is going to ruin the graduation ceremony by running his loud mouth, he is going to ruin the party afterwards.
I don't know what to do. I'm an absolute wreck . There is no way I could a 16 hour round trip with this person. It is absolute torture being around him listening to How successful he is, what a loser I am, and all the political junk that I don't even want to hear about in the first place.
AITAH for not giving in and being this guy's personal GPS and subjecting myself to 16 hours of Hearing about what a loser I am?
Update: I just want to add that I have told him no several times. And each time he says it doesn't make any sense that I'm telling him no. That I should ride up with him. And then this morning when I told him no again, he said well I guess you're not going to be going then are you. As in if I don't ride up there with him then I better not go.