Do avoidants get pleasure when they do this ?
Something i've been wondering for a while :
When they make you wait, when they stop answering texts and calls, when they ghost you, when they keep you at a distance, when they prioritize anything else but you and your relationship ?
I know the answer may not be a one size fits all.
But i wonder :
- do they get pleasure out of it ? Like an egoboost out of being chased / out of overstepping boundaries ?
- do they feel just a bit safer but guilty ?
- do they simply not think about you at these moments ?
- do they know they are risking losing you ? Or do they think there will be no consequences ? Do they hope they will lose you ? Are they consciously testing the amount of neglect you can suffer for them ?
thank you for your answers, i hope they will help me heal in some way 🙏