I (30F) come from a south asian family, but Ive always praised my family for being very nice and progressive. My parents have always told me and my brother to find a partner whose kind.
I started dating my partner 2 years ago and he is not south asian, and we are at the point of moving in. The thing is that I will be moving in regardless but I thought it would be nice if the two families met. Currently, I live with my best friend and she has already started looking for someone so thats sorted. Ive always been open about my partner to my family, I think that was my mistake from the start.
Anyways, I thought the meeting went okay at first but when we were all sitting at the table, my brother brings up how my partner makes less than me in front of his parents. My jaw dropped, my partner is a teacher..
I just dont like how my brother spoke about me and about my partner. It just made it seem like I cant make choices on my own and need the men in the family to decide.
My dad and brother also made it seem like I was like their little girl but the thing is I never felt like that. My mother passed away and my entire life I felt like I had to take care of everyone and figure things out on my own.
My dad was also very rude to my partner and said some weird things. This was also so shocking to me. Honestly always thought my dad is so kind and understanding and since the beginning hes never said anything bad.
Has anyone else been in the situation?