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Image 1 — Should I get these scratches, dings, non varnished parts sorted before playing?
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▲ 15 r/violinist

Should I get these scratches, dings, non varnished parts sorted before playing?

Hello all, I bought this violin recently and I really love it. I was looking at putting new strings on it so I took off the tailpiece and found these scratches, and at the bottom near the saddle almost gouges out of the violin. Should I get these fixed up by a luthier before playing? I don't want anything to become a crack or hole and I'm not a huge fan of the look of the patches where the bridge stands. Thankyou.

u/Frosty_Wear_6146 — 1 day ago
▲ 6 r/dementia

Different types of showtiming?

My mum has always been anxious and a very weird combination of needy plus combative.

She was finally diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year partly due to a long term campaign by me to convince the GP she was not OK, despite her efforts at every appt to talk about how great everything was and how much she was doing

I'd experience a woman who was chronically depressed, struggling with absolutely everything - knowing what day it was, what time it was, finding clothes to wear, cleaning her flat etc. Any time she had a doctor's appointment I'd have to be at her place at least an hour and a half before to help her find clothes, bags and deal with her emotional distress.

My brother was scheduled to take her to her appt today. The appt was at 09:45. He was going to get there at 09:20 to collect her and drive her the five minutes to the appt. He said he would call her about an hour before the appt to make sure she was awake etc and getting ready. At 10:00 I thought I'd check the ring doorbell footage to see if he managed to get away on time. And there I see him arrive at 09:23, ring the doorbell and see my mum appear at the door fully dressed with her coat. Admittedly he had to help her find shoes and told her not to worry about her bag she couldn't find. But she was so much more functional than she is with me!

A similar thing happened with the supermarket delivery I organised for her earlier in the week. I called her to remind her it was coming and she got upset saying she'd forgotten and was too ill to receive it and asked me to cancel it. She sounded really tired and unwell. I called and cancelled but again the ring alarm on my phone went off when they tried to deliver it. I'd clearly cancelled too late for the poor driver to get the message. The video showed that my mum answered the door as said, right as rain 'Oh no, I cancelled the delivery. My daughter called a couple of hours ago this morning. Sorry about that' and closed the door. I was gobsmacked!

It's not that I don't think my mum has dementia. I still think she does. It's just that I am now beginning to think it's all not quite as bad as I'm being told or shown. But also not as good as she's painting for the professionals. I know what she really wants is to move in with me so maybe she's overegging the pudding to try to make that happen? She doesn't realise how little she's endearing herself to me if that's the case.

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u/Frosty_Wear_6146 — 6 days ago