Sponsor in AA
I been working with my new sponsor, she has 20+ years, I have 10 years. She requires i join the homegroup, attend business meetings, get a commitment in the homegroup, cancel all future meetings I signed up to chair BEFORE I was her sponsee. I must attend all three homegroup meetings, two are zoom, one is in person/zoom.
I got a second part time job to help me with my debts. My goal is to pay my debts off by Dec 31. Im tired of being in debt. (Lost a great paying job in July 2025), now im working full time at minimum wage, and got a new part time job also at lower than minimum wage but included Tips, which is great! My new job wont allow me to participate in one of the zoom meetings. I also just requested to have Saturdays off so I can attend in person meeitngs now. Wednesday zoom meetings are fine.
My sponsor informed me she would not change our usual one on one meeitngs on Mondays at 230pm. My new job is 9am to 5pm on Mondays now. I told her, so we coudl find a new meeitngs time. She said she wont change it. That im not considerate of her time and schedule. I feel I might have to drop the sponsorship of she wont help find a new time. Am i wrong to leave sponsorship? She wouldnt even give me time to talk about my decision to get a sce9nf job weeks ago...i tried to ask her if we could meet to talk in perosn to discuss, but she said it was none of her business. That what i do personally os none of her business. I was shocked!! My very first spjnsor knew everythinv i did in my lofe cause we spoke everyday on yhe phoen for calls. This sponsor wont set up daily calls since im 10 years in, im not a newcomer so she wont do daily calls. Im confused. I thougjt i was suppsed to share with her my plans so she can give me feedbak of im making decisios too quick.
oh and then she suggested i start sponsoring! On my 10 year birthday a meeitnv asked me to share fpr 10 min, I did and mentioned i was sponsoring. 5 girls asked me to be their sponsor. I took on 3. I was meeting with them weekly and taking them to meetings since they were in a facility. My spinsor was happy for me and then weeks later when I told her about my new job, and she messaged about my concern for attendance with the home group, she told me I was sponsoring too many girls of course she always reminded me I couldn't work harder than the girls. I had to reach out to the facility to set up a time for us to do our readings. They had no cell phones since they are not allowed till after they transition to other phases.
I feel im going to just fire her and just attend AA on my own. No sponsor till God brings oen for me. What ar your thoughts??