M(22) me and my girlfriend F(20) has been together for almost 11 months now. She claims to be almost asexual and that she has a low sex drive which I respect in the relationship and I always respected her whenever she said no or I don’t want to be touched right now. She has a IUD which I know can effect libido and on birth control so I factor all of this in also, When we first started dating we would do it for a week straight when she was off her period and then we wouldn’t do it until she was off her period again. (This is what effected me the most is the sudden change)
After the 4 month period, I started noticing that it started to get less and less. We would start only doing it once a month mostly on the day right after her period is over which is her ovulation phase. I was fine with that and we both enjoyed it when we would do it.
Now we’re approaching our 11 month and this has been the hardest month for me in terms of intimacy. She’s constantly “bleeding” it’s been 1 month now and I recommended her to get it checked out but she refuses so she’s constantly wearing a pad and I’m starting to think she’s doing it to avoid intimacy. I shouldn’t be thinking that way and she says to me that she’s just not interested in that right now. I respect her choices and I understand her past trauma can also affect her libido.
But MAN it’s so hard for me to accept it even though I’m trying my best. I don’t want to end things because I know what she’s going through and went through but MAN my heads constantly thinking about the past and I’m scared about our future.
I really need some advice on what I should do and will it possibly change. Do you guys think she’s lying about bleeding constantly? It’s almost been 2 months now of that. She says she only gets a 1-2 day grace period and will start bleeding again