Update: Shy girl in a slowburn with a shy guy
Hey all, roughly a month ago I made this post asking for advice on what felt like a slowburn with a shy guy.: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/1rrbspv/advice_for_a_shy_girl_stuck_in_a_slow_burn_with_a/
Thank you to everyone who offered advice or their thoughts on the situation. I know this isn't the update most people want to hear but unfortunately our connection essentially faded. We rarely interact anymore in person, and no longer interact online.
My friends called it a situationship, I lean more towards "failed talking stage." We never progressed to getting to know each other on more than a surface level and avoided deep conversations. Most importantly we avoided addressing our own relationship and how we saw each other. There was never a confession fro neither of us or clarity as to if we would move forward.
I told myself repeatedly that if I waited a little bit, an opportunity would open up, and we would both be ready. That never happened. Towards the end, I felt as if I was ready. I didn't think he was. Then I felt my feelings for him were fading. I wanted him to step up to a greater level of commitment, and he didn't. Maybe he didn't get the hint, maybe I wasn't clear enough, but we never progressed.
I'm leaving the door ajar in case something happens in the future. People can change, people can mature. I hope I mature enough to be fully confident and ready. I hope the same of him, but I'm done pursuing him, at least for now. I've made the conscious choice to move on. In the meantime I've put my energy and time into other things. Listening to music, for example. I think Conan Gray sums up our connection best in the song Astronomy.
>We've traveled the seas, we've ridden the stars; we've seen everything from Saturn to Mars. As much as it seems like you own my heart, it's astronomy, we're two worlds apart.
I doubt he'll ever see this post, but if he does, I wish him the best.