u/FrostingJolly9616

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Hello everyone! Hoping for some advice.

Today I have a video interview with a potential nanny family for a live-in position. I am SUPER excited to get to know them, as the position seems like a perfect fit so far. I really want this opportunity, but I am a little bit anxious about something.

I have a lot of childcare experience and decided to become an au pair in Italy two summers ago. It was less pay, but I did it for the opportunity to work with a different culture. It was mostly amazing and I learned so much about myself and gained a lot of skills and confidence as a nanny. However, the family completely took advantage of me. Firstly, they neglected to pay me for 2 and a half months and it was super uncomfortable to have to remind them. It created a weird tension. Then, the host parents separated while I was staying with them and didn’t communicate that to me. I was left with their children past agreed upon hours so they could fight and deal with their drama. Other little things happened, but my last straw was that the host dad started being inappropriate with me and making flirtatious comments. I left a week before my contract ended.

Basically, my only true live-in experience was a bust because of a breach of my personal boundaries. The experience is on my resume because it is experience nonetheless, but I can’t use them as a reference. I’m not comfortable reaching out to their family after everything. They understood why I was leaving but I just don’t want to talk to them. How should I go about talking about my experience with them in an interview setting? I really want to stress that I learned so much during my time there, but I’m afraid saying that the host dad hit on me would not be a good look for myself. I really hope this doesn’t make them question my character or competency. Any advice?

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u/FrostingJolly9616 — 10 days ago

I just submitted my video interview after hours of notes, practice, everything I could do to prepare. While I am proud of myself for even getting this far, I feel like I completely bombed it 😭 I know I’m my own worst critic, but I felt like I rambled on accident. I really tried to stress safety and I presented myself as naturally as I could… but the video interview stuff really messes with me. I feel like they’re harder than face to face interaction??? Lord I’ll be anxious until I get the email. Good luck to everyone else in my boat!!

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u/FrostingJolly9616 — 13 days ago