Damned if I do, damned if I don’t
My MIL lives with us. She moved in just before I had my first baby which is now 10 weeks ago. For context- her and my husband are Hispanic. She speaks some English but not much, I speak some Spanish but not much. She does not work or drive. So she is in the house ALL THE TIME. She tries to micro manage me with my baby. She hovers. She has out dated practices for the baby that we have addressed so many times. She makes wild comments that my husband thinks is funny. Such as “I should see if I can breast feed you” talking to my son. And when we had some family visiting, I went to grab my son because he was hungry, she says “No he is my son” and starts laughing. I damn near had to rip him from her arms. My husband and his family think it’s funny, I do not. She is that Hispanic mother in law who over steps, gets involved when she shouldn’t and doesn’t respect me learning to be a mom. I’ve tried discussing this with my husband, he is extremely defensive over her with EVERYTHING. And always ends with “she means well”
I want her to go back to my brother in laws where she was before. It’s harder having her here than it would be not having her. If I tell my husband this, he ends up resenting me, and his whole family will hate me because everyone adores her.
To Add: my husband likes her here because she cooks for him since I’m still taking care of a newborn. Instead of him just stepping up and taking care of himself. I find it a turn off.
If I keep my mouth shut and just try to get by, I’m hiding in my own house with my baby, and I’m growing resentful.
There’s so much more too, but I didn’t want this post to be to long. I’m just at a loss.