WIBTA for not attending a wedding that takes place on Halloween?
My (35/M) partner (35/F) and our child (3/M) were invited to wedding that takes place on Halloween.
The wedding is fancy dress (no costumes) and I asked if there would be candy for the little ones (no), which I entirely understand -- their wedding, their choice.
My son is finally at an age where he sort of gets Halloween, and I was excited to take him trick-or-treating because I look forward to making memories with him, and I don't want to lose out on them. I don't think bringing him to a fancy wedding on Halloween would be fun or fair to any of us. He's not going to want to sit through the ceremony, and we're going to have to leave the reception early so that he can sleep.
I explained to my friends that I wasn't sure if we could make it and their response was to tell me that it's their wedding, a once-in-a-lifetime event, and that he could 'miss one Halloween' because he 'wouldn't remember it.' Again, I get that he might not remember it, but I would.
I'm conflicted. On the one hand yes I want to support my friends. On the other hand I feel like I'd be doing wrong by my son if we go. WIBTA if we didn't attend?
tl;dr: Friends decided their wedding is going to be held on Halloween. I'm not sure if I want to go because I have a child that I want to take trick-or-treating and would likely not enjoy the wedding.