I don’t know if this will help anyone but I still come on here and read these posts maybe in a soothing way to remind myself that all of this is real. Back in August I 29F left my SA ex after a year of trying to make it work (together for 3 years). He did everything you can think of porn, cheating with escorts, sex clubs, lusting over others blah blah blah. I didn’t find out until 2 years into our relationship, completely blindsided as I thought he was the perfect man. I stayed 1 more year helping with his recovery and trying SO HARD. God I’ve never felt so insecure in my life, so so so sad. I wanted to marry him so bad despite everything.
It really just clicked one day (with the help of my therapist) that I did not want to spend the rest of my life with someone like him. He had too many demons and it was not my responsibility to fix him. I left and now I’m a gf again to a man that is so sweet, gentle, intentional, consistent, emotionally intelligent and most importantly for me..disciplined. It is so attractive when a man can keep himself mentally and physically busy, we as women do it all the time. Go get a man that is up to your standards ladies. There are men out there that deserve our love and no they’re not all the same. Life is too short, it can be greener on the other side. I too thought I was with the love of my life but now I’m really giving my love to someone who deserves it. Big hugs to everyone ♥️