I’ve not posted before but feel absolutely desperate this morning.
My partner of a year relapsed on Friday after 4 months of sobriety- this was the longest he has been sober for a very long time and he had worked so hard with AA and his sponsor. His father died recently and his Mum has dementia which means he is often in a caring role which broke him on Friday.
I had gone to his place as arranged. But when I I got there he was so angry and blaming the world for all his problems. He told me he was desperate to get drunk and I think he may have already had one. He sent me away, despite my efforts to make his birthday special- he didn’t even look at be present I got him- and has just been on a huge bender since then. He had been active online. Sending tirades of messages about how his life is terrible all because of the situation with his Mum and saying some very unkind things.
He has done this numerous times before. He will drink to blackout and usually ends up in hospital having a medical detox because he won’t have eaten and will be relentless in his path of destruction. Previously, he has knocked himself unconscious and fallen and seriously hurt himself.
He has not been offline for 13 hours and is not responding to calls or messages. I am worried for his safety. I am completely done with all this- I am exhausted and making myself ill over this. If I go to the house- which isn’t close by- he will not answer the intercom and I have no fob to get in. I don’t know what to do. I’m in a state.
Any advice is really appreciated.