Birthdays
Do you and your AP mark each other's birthday's?
Been with AP for 1.5 years. All day, every day chat. Live just 20 mins from each-other (I know, I know). We became friends first, then lovers. An emotional bond for sure, lots of 'this is unlike any connection I've had' long before we kissed.
Anyway, my b'day came up 6 months into it, and nothing from her at all. Not a big deal - I'd say she's not a gifter but she splurges on gifts for literally everyone in her life, except me.
Her birthday comes around and I want to mark it, silly card, personal message, small gifts etc. Same through the year, little tokens of love - things to help her, make her feel seen, help her work etc. Nothing grand - all under $200, sometimes just a bag of candy.
Then my birthday comes back around - by this point we've exchanged I love you's - and nothing.... again. I got a happy birthday text message, that's it. No coming over - no card - no cupcake - no effort at all.
I don't want financial rewards, it's more something that shows 'hey I thought of you'.
I've given this person 1.5 years of my emotional attention, every single day. And you can't be arsed to write a card?
Is that harsh?