English is not my first language so I apologize in advance!
I (20F) am moving out of the country in about a month. Because of money I probably won’t be able to come back to my home country for a long time. My friends all know this already, but nobody seems to care!
I have two friend groups.
Group A is super social. They go to parties together all the time, constantly talk in group chats, know tons of mutual people, etc. The problem is that I’m barely included most of the time. I’ll see them hanging out, making plans, posting together, and nobody even thought to invite me.
Group B is the opposite. The group chat is basically dead, nobody ever wants to make plans, and one person literally disappeared and stopped replying to anyone entirely. Even in private dms!
I message people first, reply to stories, suggest places we could go, try to organize plans almost every week, check in on people, etc.... Sometimes one or two people respond, but most of the time I either get ignored or get dry responses like "sorry, I didn't see your text!" 2 weeks later.
What hurts is that nobody has ever actually told me if I did something wrong. Nobody confronted me, nobody communicated anything. It just feels like everyone lost interest and doesn't really care to put in some effort. I was very close to the friend (19F) that stopped responding to everybody, and honestly feel like an idiot for caring so much about her. I asked if everything was okay and tried reaching out, only to realize later that I was removed from everything except Instagram and whatsapp (which she doesn't answer in either of those).
For years I talked about having some kind of goodbye party before leaving, but now I genuinely don’t even want to bother anymore. There’s only one month left before I move, and I think I'll just settle some legal stuff and don't say anything to anyone.
At this point I’ve honestly lost a lot of energy and respect for most of them. The 3-4 people that still bother sometimes also don't seem all that interested anymore.
Part of me wants to just leave, post nothing, text nobody, and let people find out after I’m already gone.
But another part of me wonders if that would make me immature, or an asshole even ?
So… WIBTA if I left the country without saying goodbye to anyone?