Huge job opportunity came up which would require relocating across the country. My child’s father pays child support but has not met our child, we don’t have any parenting time filed in court, he even told the judge he has no interest in getting to know our son. Our child is 3. Will I have a problem? Do I even have to tell him we’re leaving the state?
He’s very vindictive and in the past has threatened me with “I could take you court, I can take LO from you. How would that feel?” He’s also threatened to get our child’s last name changed to his. He lost custody of his other children due to 2 different DV charges and wants me to feel his pain. 1 charge was made by an ex gf he attacked, another charge was filed by a different “baby mama” because he hit their child. (He has 3 “baby mamas” including me). So he currently doesn’t have any visitation with his other children because one mother pressed charges and the other keeps her child away for safety concerns.
He claims I’m keeping him from seeing OUR child but I have evidence of him bailing on plans we’ve had previously. I get a phone call from him maybe every few months and he’s usually berating me about not keeping him posted on our child, or how the state is lying about his child support balance because he keeps his own records of payments, or he actually asks how our child is doing and asks for a picture. And then I don’t hear from him again, I also don’t feel it’s my responsibility to “keep him posted” on our child when he’s never made a real effort to even meet him.