I (F26) woke up this morning just not wanting to be touched or fussed over—just one of those days where I needed a bit of space. Apparently that wasn’t acceptable to my partner (M25).
He basically threw what I can only describe as a tantrum. He grabbed my phone and put it in his drawer, which obviously turned into an argument because… what? I’m not a child you can confiscate things from. Then he went downstairs and started slamming stuff around like he wanted to make sure I could hear how angry he was.
The thing is, this isn’t even the first time—it’s the third time he’s reacted like this over something small. And it’s really starting to get to me.
We’ve been together just over a year and got engaged in September, so it’s not like this is some brand new, casual thing. But lately I can feel myself starting to fall out of love with him, and mornings like this just make it worse.
He’s gone to his mum’s for the day now, which honestly is a bit of a relief. Before he left, I told him straight that I’m not putting up with that kind of behaviour. I dealt with stuff like that when I was younger and I’m not doing it again as an adult. If it happens again, I’m done.
Now I’m just sitting here wondering if I’m overreacting or if this is as big of a red flag as it feels. Any advice would be great, especially because we live together and I’m not really sure what to do next—I don’t want to hurt him, but I also don’t want to keep feeling like this.
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