Me (36F) and my husband (33M) have been together for 8 years, we got married 2 years ago. We are both from South America and live in Sweden, we don't have any family here.
We have had our issues, specifically about intimacy (PTSD from my side) but we knew we loved each other and were working on it.
We have now a 9 months old son. We love him so much but his sleep is terrible and we don't have any support. We are both soooo tired and sleep deprived.
Since end of February we have not stopped arguing. We fight about hating the life in Sweden, about our intimacy issues, about me hating my job and not wanting to go back after maternity leave, about how stressed he is with his job right now, about how the government is changing the citizenship rules just when it was my turn to apply, about the cats waking us up at 4 am, about how we said things.... Basically we fight about everything.
I feel like I'm going crazy... I have gotten to the point of screaming at him like a crazy person for 20 minutes while my baby was crying scared of seeing his mom out of control.
We started couples therapy 1 month ago but it feels like we will need many sessions before we get to a good point.
I am telling him that I need a pause from all these discussions, that I can't keep going like this...but he is in the position of that we need to keep talking about our issues or we will never be able to fix them, so I feel forced to keep talking even though I am at my limit.
I guess I am just writing this to vent and to not loose control in front of my baby again... It is 5 am in the morning, baby is finally sleeping but I cannot sleep. Thank you if you read until here. Is there any advice on what we could do?