For Context, around 2 months ago I received a very long message from my best friend about a lot of small things I had done that bothered her that had built up over time and that she wanted to talk about. I normally wouldn’t mind this much since it’s not atypical of her to do since she’s bad at confrontation, but i was thrown off when she started her message with “Ever since we started college…” Not sure if you can tell by our ages but we’d started college (separately) nearly 2 years ago at this point. This changed the overall vibe of the message on my end, but because she’s my best friend i wanted to talk about everything rather than dismiss it because it was long ago (considering the things she brought up were valid and not petty) We spoke for a long while and ended the conversation on good terms, laughing, and me asking her to please not to do the same and let me know if something bothers her immediately rather than later.
Fast forward a few weeks later and I see her back at home. Things are mostly fine but I find myself feeling she’s ignoring talking to me when we’re in a group to speak to her significant other instead (21M). During this time, however, she had a very important meeting coming up that was adding a lot of stress to her life. Because of this i decided to give her the benefit of the doubt and will bring up the fact that im feeling ignored after she’s done with the meeting as to not add to her stress. I message her the day of her event telling her that i wished her good luck and that i hope everything goes well for her. This was a month ago now and i still have not received as much as any sort of response or acknowledgment that i exist. Even when I post she no longer likes or comments which is something she did very frequently before.
It does come from partial pettiness but I have not reached out because i believe (especially after our conversation) that it is her job to come up to me and tell me if she’s feeling an issue or some sense of uncertainty in our friendship. I want to make it clear i would have told her about how i was feeling very quickly had she not started ghosting me after her meeting. I know it’s been late but do I even still reach out? Did I make a mistake already by not reaching out sooner?