u/Forward_Cold1382

My wife (Ella, 25f) has been doing yoga with my mom at my aunt’s yoga studio for a few months. It’s been great for the two of them as they get to know each other better (Ella and I got married last year), kind of a bonding thing.

My aunt is a bit of a hippy type and made an odd comment that they both laughed about. Basically, the three of them (Ella, my mom and aunt) were hanging out in the sauna after a workout and my aunt remarked about how beautiful and meaningful it was to be in the raw presence of the energy of the two most important women in John’s (that’s me) life. She said that one body provided life and nurturing to John, and the other body provides partnership and pleasure, and it’s beautiful to be with both energies.

Ella and my mom told me about the comment at dinner after and they laughed about it, how it was kind of hippy dippy and funny. My mom then said that it’s kind of true? And that something like it had crossed her mind the first time she was with Ella in the sauna, like an unexplainable energy.

And then Ella said she agreed! That being in the presence of my mom like that made her feel closer to me in a way she didn’t expect, like an almost paranormal way.

So now I’m sitting with this info and wondering what it’s about? I’ve never heard of this. I’d like to understand it better but I wonder if bringing it up would make it weird? Should I just let it go?

I (35m) have a twin sister (Emma, 35f) who I am very close with. We were inseparable growing up (we had a fairly chaotic home life) and remain an important part of each other’s lives.

Emma is going through a difficult divorce and moved in with my wife (Andrea, 33f) and me in February, as a transition until she can get her life together. She’s been great to have around and Andrea and I have been happy to help her out.

Recently though I have been picking up on vibes from Andrea, that my closeness with Emma is bugging her a bit. Emma and I do hang out a lot, and the three of us do things together often. But Andrea told me that “I think Emma wants to be your girlfriend” jokingly-but-not-jokingly and it was the first time I felt like Andrea felt threatened in a way I didn’t expect.

Andrea is not a territorial or jealous person, so it was surprising to hear that. I asked Andrea what she meant and she said Emma is very touchy feely with me and relies on me for emotional support, always wants my approval and wants to know what I’m thinking, like a girlfriend would, and it’s just kind of funny.

Of course, the day after I had this conversation with Andrea, she came home and Emma was in the kitchen making margaritas for us in a bikini (she had been at the apartment pool). Andrea seemed amused and flashed me a look of “ok, see what I mean now?” with a half smile and eye roll.

I think two things are going on. I think Emma is more needy toward me than usual right now, and Andrea is probably picking up on that. And Andrea is also feeling like she has this new female energy in the house “competing” in a sense and it’s kind of annoying to her.

I don’t want to hurt Emma but I’m wondering if I should have a conversation or try to draw some boundaries here.