TLDR: my fiancé (29M) told me he can’t live like this, he said he hates me. I know this isn’t right, how do I begin to leave? We’ve been together for 9 months.
My fiancé and I got in an argument today after work. He came home upset as he started a new job a week ago and said he was overstimulated as he’s not use to this type of work. When I got home I sat next to him as he gamed and tried to talk to him, he asked me to leave and I asked if he would help me unload the car and if we could hang out a bit before he continued to game. He unloaded the car and sat on the sofa and put on a random movie. I could tell he wasn’t into it so I told him he could go game as he wasn’t enjoying the movie. I told him I felt a bit sad we weren’t able to spend time together today and asked for a kiss but he refused. I playfully continued to ask before he went off on me and said that he treats me this way because I make him. He said if I would have just given him space he would’ve been able to relax by now. That’s when he said he hates me and he can’t imagine living the rest of his life like this. He said I talk too much and I suffocate him. He said he doesn’t understand how I can come home from my job (I work with individuals in acute crisis) and still have the energy to talk. I know I should have given him space but this feels like it went too far? I don’t want to be treated like this. I know there’s someone out there that would appreciate my yap and someone that would appreciate his need to game. However we live together, he has no family in the U.S, his car is under both our names as I had to co-sign and I feel so overwhelmed. How do I leave. I’ve been praying to God to give me the strength and grace to leave. If you’re at all religious I ask to you pray for me. Pray so this I may have the strength to walk away despite how impossible this feels.