Is this abuse? (24M, 25NB)
Have been dating him for one year(he's 24, I'm 25). Not sure If I should stay with him.
He teases me often about everything(weight, age, eyesight). Jokes all the time even when I'm not in the mood for jokes. Never takes my anger about that seriously.
When I confront him about the teasing he gets sad and says it's his love language. I say to him that it makes my self-esteem worse and that he should stop teasing me. He says ok, some times passes and he starts teasing me again.
When I react negatively to his jokes(he repeats his jokes almost daily like a broken record) he becomes sad and it makes me feel quilty. It irritates me. When I try to tell him to be more serious he says it's just the way he is.
When we argue(and we argue often about the most not important stuff) he gets cold, stops responding and ignores me trying to communicate with him. It makes me feel hurt a little and confused what did I do wrong. Then time passes and he acts like nothing ever happened and denies everything.
He keeps questioning me if I even love him to the point where even I question myself about that daily. He starts saying jockingly to the most smallest inconvinience that I don't love him and I don't take jokes well.
I don't take jokes well at all. When I show that I'm distressed about jokes(I just want to take a time out) he ignores that and treats it like it's cute that I'm frustrated.
He also checks my personal phone messages.
But on tge other hand when I'm sad about all of this situation he comforts me and shows a lot of love which makes me want not to leave him. I'm confused.
Any advice?...