Do I have a chance to get back with my ex?
My (24M) ex dumped me (24F) back in the beginning of March and I simply cannot get over him and it’s clear to me that he still cares about me. I do not know what to do here because I’ve never struggled this hard to get over an ex.
A little background, we went to college together, I had a little class crush on him but ended up with someone else for 2 years. I graduated 2024, he took an extra semester because of some personal things that honestly probably affected our relationship. But we matched on a dating app back in the beginning of June and started a little situation ship type thing. We both originally did not want anything serious but both became pretty attached. We were honestly so good for each-other and didn’t have any arguments but like twice (nothing actually bad). We dated officially for a little over 2 months but the entire relationship was about 9-10 months, which is my shortest relationship yet.
There was one problem, he really could not seem to show up. And it wasn’t a lack of care for me it seemed to be more of an insecurity on his own end. He kept saying things like “i don’t like where I’m at in life right now” or “I’m scared of you relying on me and me not being able to show up for you when you need me to” things of that nature some other things went into it that for his privacy, even though y’all don’t know who he is, I will not share. He was very flaky about showing up physically but I could tell he was trying very hard to, and was probably doing more than what he had the capacity to. I think it all went downhill on Valentine’s Day. I wrote him a note that was a bit more emotionally expressive than I had really ever been before. Truth is, I was, and still am in love with him. I never said it tho. The note however, made him really emotional, he kinda let out some tears, hugged me and was saying like nobody’s said those things to him before and I think in some way it also scared him. About two weeks later I was once again struggling to get him to come see me and spend time with me and sorta snapped when he wouldn’t. That lead to the conversation of him saying he doesn’t think he has the capacity to show up as much as I need him to. And then we took a break for a week and he ultimately ended up breaking up with me.
We remained in some contact, really not a lot. Saw each-other a couple of times in the past few months. It has been a while since we broke up and my problem is I still very much so want to be with him. And I really want to try and get him back. Or just at-least stop being so emotional about it. I’ve never struggled this much about an ex. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know if there is even hope of us ever being a thing again? I genuinely never felt that good about someone before, and he had said the same thing.