My roommates text me little "reminders" every single time I do something wrong. Random little mistakes that I make, that probably most humans make from time to time, apparently warrant messages in the group chat.
The thing is, I usually double, triple, quadruple check to make sure I did what I was supposed to do. On my way out of the door going to work, I'll turn around to make sure I locked the door, I'll stop my car as I'm pulling out of the driveway to check again, sometimes I'll even turn around when I'm already down the road to make certain I locked the door, and I'll still doubt myself. I'll go back out to the kitchen 5 times to make sure I shut the laundry room or freezer. I'll open the bathroom cabinet multiple times to make sure I didn't leave an empty roll. Etc.
What I'm trying to say is that I'm overly cautious if not paranoid about these kinds of things, but I rarely catch myself actually making those mistakes when re-tracing my steps. My roommates, however, are careless and do these things a LOT. I feel like I get blamed for things they did themselves, or get thrown under the bus for things I rarely do but they do regularly.
My roommates are a couple. The boyfriend is lazy, he leaves messes for the girlfriend to pick up, then blames and berates her if she misses something. The girlfriend is CONSTANTLY forgetting to do things and blames it on her self-diagnosed, unmedicated "ADHD"...She has also put us in danger.
They leave the bathroom cabinets open, don't replace the TP roll, forget to flush, leave the front door unlocked, keep lights on, leave windows open, don't put stove knobs away, don't take their clothes out of the dryer, she has left stuff cooking on the stove and gone to take a shower or nap, the list goes on.
I have done SOME of the more harmless things listed above and, without fail, there will be a guaranteed message in the group chat about it, a "reminder" that feels more like a call-out. They've even blamed me for things THEY DID.
A couple of weeks ago I was leaving for work and double-checked to make sure I locked the door. One of my roommates was awake in the livingroom. A few hours later, I got a notification from them tagging me in the group chat with a paragraph claiming I had not only left the door unlocked, but that I didn't even close it all the way. I replied roomie was sitting three feet away from the door when I left and that it would have been noticed hours ago if it had been me. All I got back was a thumbs up, no acknowledgement or apology.
20 minutes ago I went out to the kitchen and glanced over at the front door as I was passing by to see it unlocked. Roommates are awake in their bedroom. Did I knock on their door? No. Did I message the group chat? No. I locked the door and continued what I was doing. It's that simple.
I really don't feel the need to scold someone over something so small, and I don't understand why they do it to me. I understand it from a "please don't do it again" viewpoint, but after a couple years of living here, and witnessing them do all of those things and more quite often, you'd think they'd know I get the memo? It kind of makes me feel more like their child than their roommate.