u/Foreign_Look8668

This might be a bit tricky to phrase, but I’m curious how people think about their preferences.

When it comes to traits like height (this train of thought really applies to any physical trait), do you think your preference is something you genuinely like on its own? Or could it be influenced by how you expect people with that trait to respond to you?

For example, do you ever find yourself associating someone else's height with how likely someone is to accept you or be attracted to you. Thus, that thought process being the basis that shapes who you’re drawn to?

Personally, I’ve seen people in the sub assume that someone’s height automatically means they’ll be more or less open to dating them, and I’m wondering how much of our “preferences” are actually tied to those kinds of assumptions.

I've also been there and still think that way sometimes cause there is a loud crowd in society which reinforces very typically gendered contrast between men and women, masculine and feminine. Especially in very physical/superficial ways. I've been right sometimes regarding these assumptions but I've been wrong a lot of times too.

Additional question, do you think your preferences have ever been heavily influenced by who you think you should like and the desire for social approval?

It's been awhile since i've seen a post of short person admiring another short person.