AITA for not going to my nieces birthday party
I (21F) just had a baby two months ago, before me and my boyfriend both worked but since having the baby i’ve been staying home since we don’t want to put him in daycare and we really don’t have anyone to watch him. Because of this we’ve had a big financial change only living off one income and are still working ways to budget and save money. For the most part we have been good but due to car maintenance costs and other things we’ve had to work around are usual budget we are short for the next two weeks. now my Sil had invited us to go out of town 2 hours away to an aquarium she let us know it’d be $50 for both me and my boyfriend to go. I had told her we might not be able to afford it but if we end up being able to then of course we can go to which her response was “it’s not that expensive”.
Fast forward a week later she had asked again if i’m going, after bills payed and everything we genuinely didn’t have the money so I told her we can’t make it and that i’m sorry. my sil and brother both know i have bonds because my brother, sister and me all received them from my grandparents. They asked me to just use that to go but I had explained that I won’t touch them because it’s an emergency savings and also the money i’m keeping put away so we can use it as a security deposit to move out once our lease is up. they were getting mad over this and kept telling me " you can use a little bit of it to go to your nieces birthday”. but with gas to there and back and the aquarium plus they wanted to go out to dinner that’d dip into it a lot and we aren’t in a situation where we can put that money back into it. and this month regardless we’re most likely gonna need to use some of it for needs for my son. than they bugged me to ask my other family members for money and i’m just not that kind of person especially since i’ve already had to ask for help this month from my father and i want to try and pay him back. they kept saying im making excuses and now aren’t talking to me and basically are making it seem like i don’t care about my niece. but i will not touch savings i said i wouldn’t unless needed because i have my own little family to care about now. I had offered a solution that maybe when they come back we could plan a day where we could come over and do a little dinner or cake on her actual birthday so i could see her and we could do something with her. But they won’t respond. I don’t know why they’re so upset, i’m not doing this intentionally so i don’t know AITA for not using some of the savings to go???